Why I should try this out
So why should you try therapy? Short answer, its a safe place. Long answer, It’s a space for you to let it all out. It’s an hour designed JUST FOR YOU. Not a space for your parent, grandparent, child, or best friend. The focus is on you and what you need. Your needs are not another person needs. Basic needs of Food, Water, and Shelter, are what everyone needs. But your specific needs might be validation, conformation, reframing your perspective, confrontation, change in behaviors, and or just someone there to listen to you. You are granted throwing whatever is on your mind and the person on the other end is there to help you untangle what you are saying and make it so you can understand what is going on for you.
The goal is always what is going to fit for you. Recognizing that there might be a better way of handling things or learning that fear, anger and anxiety does not always have to be part of your daily life is something that can cause you more of a headache at first, but finding the right therapist to help you understand it is a key component.
Therapy actually works best when you are not in Crisis. When you are in a true crisis please reach out there are many numbers and if you need any please let me know I will gladly get you the local numbers for your area. The goal for when you are in crisis is to get you to calm and regulate yourself in the moment to help you through what you are going through right now and help you get to a safe place.
Not every therapist is for you, some therapist may be great working with only females, only males, and or the LGBTQ community. Therapist also use different modalities. Some people are trained in CBT, EDMR, DBT, Solution Focused, etc. Therapy is not a one size fits all. You wouldn’t wear a pair of shoes that hurt when you wear them. So you would not continue to see a therapist that you don’t see the benefits of being there. With that being said if you continue to wear the shoes and they start to feel comfortable you might wear them more. Therapist is the same way. It takes time to build a Rapport. You are there giving important details about your life, more importantly parts of your life that have caused you stress, pain, and extremely vulnerable moments in your life. You also can share joys and wins and things that are positive but could scare you at the same time. It takes time to be able to trust your therapist with those details. The goal is that you feel comfortable telling your therapist and learn that they can take the details and help you make sense of them.
Therapy is a form of self care. It is there to make sure you are able to have a judgement free zone and time just for you. It is there to help you achieve self awareness. The goal is that you can take the “tools” you have learned while in therapy and you can use it no matter what stage of life you are in. So you can handle what ever comes your way you can be emotionally aware to handle any situation that you may face in the future.
If you have any questions please feel free to reach out. I will gladly answer any questions or give you any resources you may need.
